Question: I am a 22 year old man in a desperate need for help. I am an engineering graduate, now proceeding with a computer course. With the blessings of God I am expecting to get a good job soon. By the grace of God, I am born of very good parents, with a wonderful family background.
I am really sticking to the principles taught by Swami Vivekananda, which has made me a confident, energetic young man. I have decided to contribute a handsome amount to the society, from the moment I start earning. Even now I have been helping out the poor and needy to any possible extent and I do that only with respect to God.
Coming to my problem, I have the same problem which most men of my age face. I am not able to overcome, or control my sensual pleasures. If I try to control my sexual desires, because of my determination, I think of it most of the time and the time gets wasted. Instead I feel that I can give way to those feelings so that I don’t waste time anymore, but for 5-10 minutes. Because of my nature of my profession in which I would soon be, it would be nearly impossible to cut down contact with people of opposite sex. I am practising meditation, chanting Gayathri Mantra 108 times in the morning and in the evening, followed by Sivapuranam (Tamil Sloka for lord Shiva). Please tell me if there are any specific Slokas that would help me overcome my problem. I am deeply depressed as I am not able to keep up the promises made to God in this regard and am afraid that I would be punished. To say the truth, I have been to Vivekananda Ashram Ulsoor, for the meditation classes conducted on Sundays from 4:30 to 5:30. I wanted to have a discussion. But I was feeling ashamed of discussing such a problem with my religious Guru. Now I am back to my native, please help me in this regard,
Answer: My humble advice to you is
1.Take bland diet (Without Salt & species).
2. Don’t take pickles or any Garam Masala items.
3.You should give up such food that excites your nerves like garlic or onion.
4.Take only Satvik food.
5. Continue to chant Gayatri Mantra with meaning which you are doing now.
6. Offer intense prayers to make your mind pure.
7.Take some physical exercises daily like Yogasanas.
8. Keep good company.
9. Read good books which will elevate your mind, and cogitate on such good thoughts.
10. Don’t think opposite sex as an object of enjoyment, a manufacturing machine. Instead think that they are divine and they are also to be honored, respected and worshipped. In this connection I request you to read that portion from the life of Sri Ramakrishna who worshipped his wife as the Mother of the universe. Unless until you change your outlook you cannot raise in the Moral scale. Every woman is Shakti and she has divinity in her. Pay due respects to that divinity and hate it not.
May Divine Mother of the universe give you sufficient mental strength to overcome all temptations in your life!