Question: Currently I am doing my Night shift so I work and at the same time I mail you in solace. In fact that is what I do, I work, I keep my self engaged with work, that keeps me happy when I make good designs.
But sir, sadly this lack of work environment is a truth here. The day i mailed you, these things were very dominant in my mind, but tonight as it’s about a week I am much cooler.
If fact I have to a certain extent adjusted and accepted this scenario, but I try to keep my self awake with work.
But sir you know this mind is restless, as I mentioned you I keep on having hypothetical thoughts what if… they do this… what if they misbehave….what if they obstruct… I know it’s wrong but it happens then I control it also, this is how it is.
Although it is not that bad that I need to take a transfer, because my department has the most advanced software on which I do the designing, taking a transfer will make me loose this opportunity.
But yes sir, these guys do try to make their presence felt just by talking, and talking nonsense.
I do tell all these things to my parents, baba (he is a lecturer in English) says what swami Vivekananda said” chalakir dara kono mauhot kaaj kora jae na”.
But sir, when you face things then only one realizes what it is like to face trouble or nonsense.
Sir, I love to read these fiery books of Ramakrishna Mission, but I have never done yoga, yes I do lye down quietly and try to see what the trouble is and give answers to it me.
Swamiji is it possible that if remain calm irrespective of the kind of people, rage, jealousy that one faces.
I want to remain unmoved under any circumstance, with due focus on my work. How?
I can grab a better job for myself in the next 3-4 years, but I want to leave this place with a smile and with a great deal of knowledge in my stream of Designing.
Swamiji, I want to be stronger in this respect that let people say anything I will move on…
In this regard I will need your constant touch through mail.
I regularly Visit the Ramakrishna Mission stall in book fair I attained the name of a Swamiji and the timings on when can I meet him… but sir the problem is not that severe and acute, had it been I surely would have made a move.
But I wanted to talk to some one on how to face and live life in the right note, I just get one holiday in a week and I just sleep through out the day or stay at home or go for a walk, sorry sir for this laziness…
But I would with your kind permission like to put questions to you on life or how to face things or situations or people.
Swamiji, kindly give me a reply as you get my mail, I feel mail is a much better was to discuss and when things look severe I will walk my way to you or who ever you suggest. But sir I want to keep in touch with you through mail.
It was a great pleasure to get back a reply from your end I hope you will take the pain of answering my Questions when ever I am in trouble or in Darkness.
Answer: You are free to write to us whenever you feel like.
There are two methods of controlling the vagaries of the mind.
1. You must be like an observer. You go on simply watching your own mind. Just like the students keep quiet in the class room when teacher is observing, the mind will calm down. But you must take care not to identify or mix yourself with these thoughts.
2. Self-surrender: Surrendering to God and accept the life as it comes and face the same boldly.
Appended is a nice parable. It can help you. I hope you will like it.
A DONKEY IN THE WELL…
One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey. He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They each grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well.
At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement, he quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer looked down the well, and was astonished at what he saw.
As every shovel of dirt hit his back, the donkey did something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up. As the farmer’s neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up.
Pretty soon, everyone was amazed, as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and trotted off.
The Moral:
Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up! Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.